This fun & light-hearted entry is dedicated to my loving friends, especially the ones who might be a little discouraged, including me, let's hold hands together and get through life and to heaven with minor scratches! Meanwhile, I'll root for you with pom-poms till the end of time!
Recently I've been having a lot of dinner conversations with the broken hearted. For some reason, friends, even if we have just met not terribly long ago, feel comfortable pouring out their innermost sorrows to me.
I should start a Rehab for the broken hearted.
I guess most of us would have our fair share of broken hearts and it is truly difficult to get over someone, something or a disappointing situation, crushed dreams, and even yourself.
Maybe some of us are blessed with truly busy jobs - we just have no time to dwell upon things. Though sometimes, for a fleeting moment, you are reminded of that someone. Or perhaps in that few empty moments before you go to bed, you think about what you shouldn't have done.
Some meaningful truths and lessons I've learned along the way:
P.s. Note they are completely original. I didn't rip them off some self-help book.
1) Realize it takes time. Don't expect to be happy immediately but don't walk around with a sullen face either.
2) Go for a haircut! Change your image! Its temporal but it forces you to focus on something else.
3) Count your blessings!
4) Go for some personal development plan - cooking, dancing. Also focus your energies on changing something about yourself - just to feel a little buzz, desire to be a better person.
5) Re-brand yourself. If you are a hermit, go out more! Party! If you are a socialite, try changing the scene altogether, and go on a mission trip to Cambodia.
6) Plan revenge! This always works to a certain extent. And look fabulous as you do.
7) B****! Or rather, vent! Be careful not to overstay your listener's welcome, if you know what I mean. (You don't want to be losing your friends the same time you are getting over your broken heart.) Refer to SATC's episode when Carrie was getting over seeing Big with Natasha.
8) If its over someone whom you had a relationship with, hang out with the best looking people you can find! You'll feel better having adoring male (or female) attention, even if they are not in love with you! If its over yourself, don't feed on negative thoughts but rather give yourself extra pampering! If its over your lost dreams etc, throw out your old journal and get a new one and start writing new dreams/plans/strategy or hibernate for awhile before doing the former.
9) Make new friends! Develop existing friendships. Find quality people to hang out with.
10) Honestly, even after doing all these, you'll still find sometimes feeling empty. That means you've got a BIG one on your hands, or in this case, a big crack in your heart. I suggest you go to Jesus. His grace and love are the answers to your everything!
Jesus is the ONLY way to life! Nothing else really works for the big time stuff, seriously.
Just my 2 cents worth. xoxoxoxoxo
